BOTG: What makes you a certified Mack?
DH:What makes me a mack is the fact that I am a mission to master the game of life through knowledge and understanding. I strive to analyze, understand and manipulate every aspect of life so that I will be in control as much as I possibly can. I know what to say and when to say it, because I understand who I am saying it to.
BOTG: When did you know that you were truly full-fledged Mack?
DH:I can’t think of any one point that it just clicked in my mind that I’d hit the level of a mack. I can pinpoint when my journey began, however, and that would be the first time I really got played by a female. At that moment, I was a destined to be a mack because I decided to stop being a square.
BOTG: What made you want to teach or spit game?
DH:I have always been, and will always be, a student of the game. I’m on a constant quest to learn as much as I possibly can about the game and women. A wise man once told me that the best way to learn something is to teach it. Spitting game comes natural.
BOTG: What do you think of the interaction of men and women today?
DH:The interactions between men and women today are completely unbalanced. Somewhere along the line, chivalry transcended everything that it should have been and turned into the axiom that men should kiss a woman’s behind at all times. For the majority of social interactions, women wield the power because men surrender it. A man puts in his bid, and a woman chooses whether or not she will give him the time of day.
BOTG: When approaching a woman, what is the first thing a man must do?
DH:The first thing a man must do when approaching a woman is to strategize. A man should have a plan of action when stepping to a woman, if possible. He should observe whatever he can about her in order to put himself in the greatest position possible to end up successful.
BOTG: Upon approaching a woman, what is the first thing you usually say?
DH:It really depends on the situation. It could be no more than a simple “Hello. How are you? My name is D.J.” If I note something interesting about her, what she’s doing, or what’s going on around us, I may comment about that before making an introduction.
BOTG: Give your definition of a nice guy.
DH:I think there are two separate definitions of a ‘nice guy’. There is the nice guy that you don’t want to be and there’s the nice guy that you do want to be. The one that you don’t want to be is a pushover. He’s a punk. He allows women to control and run over him and he has no backbone or sense of masculinity. The nice guy that you do want to be is respectful, grounded, and reasonably accommodating.
BOTG: Is it good to be nice?
DH:It is good to be nice. It isn’t good to be a pushover.
BOTG: Tell us about your book ‘ The Mack Mentality; Dating & Survival Principles For The Modern Day Mack’
DH:The book is something I’m really proud about because I think it is necessary for the world that we’re in today. The dating game really is a mess. The book is meant to restore balance by empowering men with knowledge and game. Inside the book are 32 principles that men should abide by to keep the upper hand in their dealings with women.
This book isn’t about how to be a player and it doesn’t contain a bunch of lame pick up lines that the squares use. This book is about giving men the confidence, attitude and understanding so he will not need to use lines. The Mack Mentality is about controlling and manipulating minds.
BOTG: What influenced you to write the book?
DH:I was mostly influenced by my disgust from observations of how I saw men around me behaving themselves with their interactions with women. Squares make the game much harder for a mack than it should be. Somewhere along the line, the game got polluted. The Mack Mentality is here to clean the air.
BOTG: Do you really believe that there are 32 Principles or is there more that you didn’t feel to mention?
DH:I definitely believe that there are more than 32 principles for a mack to abide by. I think the number may be infinite actually. The game is a never ending quest for knowledge and understanding. While I listed 32 vital principles in the book, I could awake tomorrow enlightened with number 33.
BOTG: Why do you think most women want thugs?
DH:I don’t feel that it’s most women that want thugs. I do feel that there are plenty that are attracted to thugs, however. I think this is due to the ‘thug type’ of brother exhibiting some appealing characteristics that women do not see in most ‘nice guys’. The thug offers a certain sense of excitement that a lot of men do not bring. As humans, what we a familiar with becomes mundane. Therefore, unpredictability of a thug is naturally attractive when compared to square men.
Thugs also exhibit a backbone that women long to have in a land filled with so many submissive, feminine men. Most women want a man that is going to be a man, not one that will spend more time in the mirror than she will. Lastly, women believe that even if a thug has nothing else to offer, he will at least keep her satisfied sexually. Sometimes, that’s all that they want.
BOTG: Don’t you worry about women listening to your show or reading your book?
DH:I don’t worry about it at all. When I decided to write the book, I accepted the fact that I will have to be the martyr for the cause. I feel that my mission in writing this book is far greater than any effects it could have on my own social life. There are definitely women that are automatically turned off by even the title and refuse to even entertain a conversation about it. To them I turn my cheek and spit game at their friends.
As far as women listening to the show or reading the book and gaining enough from the concepts to shut the game down, that simply isn’t possible. A mack is a chameleon. A true mack will never get caught macking or running game because he controls all aspects of the situation that he is in. Sure, a woman may think that she is up on game because she reads all of these principles, but if the man applying them is doing it correctly, it will all be transparent to her eyes.
BOTG: Since you started the show and wrote this book, how has things changed for you?
DH:Personally, the only real change has been the reaction I get from women. Once introduced to the book, most are appalled and shocked simply at the title. A woman that has caught wind of my book usually requires a disarming of the wall that she will have built up against me. I’ve also been able to build with like-minded men that support the movement and respect what I’m trying to do, however. For the most part, I get the reactions that I expected when I decided to do it.
BOTG: Would you say that you stumbled on Macking by accident?
DH:I definitely wouldn’t call it an accident. I think that, as people, what we are the sum total of all of our life experiences and education. My turning out to be a mack is the product of many years learning and studying women and the psychology of male/female interactions. Even as a child, I’d always tilt my hat to the guy that had all the girls. I made it my own personal mission to be that guy. What I ended up being was something greater.
BOTG: What are your views on marriage? Ever plan on getting married?
DH:I definitely plan on getting married one day. Will it be anytime soon? Probably not! However, I do see it in my future. I was blessed enough to see my grandma and granddad make it through many years of marriage. That’s definitely something that I would like to have for myself given the right partner.
Even though I obviously view marriage as a good thing, I think that people take it far too lightly. Just because you love someone, does not mean that you should marry them. I think too many couples get married simply because of the feelings that they have during the ‘newness’ of the relationship.
Getting married shouldn’t be based solely on emotions. Sure you love this person, but do you have anything in common? Are you on the same page financially and spiritually? Would you trust them with your life (as you will when having sex unprotected)? Does your partner really satisfy you in so many ways that you could never see yourself straying? If not, then why put yourself in that situation?
BOTG: Tell us about Sho Nuff Productions. LLC. How did that come about?
DH:Sho Nuff Productions, LLC is the entity that I created to drive my business endeavours. The first project for the company was the publishing of my book. We have plans for future books, screenplays and even media and web design.
BOTG: What do you do or provide at Sho Nuff Productions. LLC?
DH:I perform and oversee all operations at Sho Nuff Productions, LLC. I am the founder, owner, operator, CEO, and HNIC!
BOTG:What principle do you advise or suggest that a man use the most?
DH:I’ve always said that the most important principle is #3, “I Think I’m The Sh*t – Confidence Is Key”. The first sentence of that chapter reads, “Confidence is the key to the world.” That is something that I truly believe. A confident person can do many, many things. It is said that a lie spoken with confidence often rings truer than a fact spoken meekly.
BOTG:Describe confidence. This is something a man has to have, tell us how a man can generate it.
DH:At its core, confidence is simply a belief in one’s self. Confidence manifests itself in the form of charisma. Charisma is defined as having a special magnetic charm and appeal. A true mack sweats charisma through his skin. There is no one way that will generate confidence for any man. A man has to take a long and unpleasant look at himself and figure out why he is not confident.
Once these insecurities are out on the table, he should separate what he can change from what he cannot. The next step is to take action and change or improve whatever he has the ability to, while saying f*ck the rest of it. You’ll find that most things that you really have no control over will rarely matter much to the outside world anyway. There’s always a way to offset these things anyway. As you’re working to improve yourself, fake it till you make it. Act confident and soon it will be habit as it starts to become natural.
BOTG: What do you think men are doing wrong with women these days?
DH:I mean if you believe that something is wrong. Men are not taking their proper place as men and guiding the relationship and interactions. They are allowing women to dictate and control the situation.
BOTG: Would you say that the game is mostly about looks?
DH:Absolutely not. For women, a lot of the game is about looks. This is because men are visual creatures by nature. For men, however, the game is about knowledge and understanding. If you understand a situation, you are able to either adapt to it, or control it at some level. The game is about understanding enough about the person that you are dealing with that you are able to control her without her knowing that you are doing so.
BOTG: What are your thoughts on male empowerment groups like this one?
DH:I love it. I feel it’s very necessary. I respect everything about the male empowerment movement and what you’re doing to contribute to it. I feel that we are fighting for the same cause. Brothers need things that will bring us together and elevate our minds.
BOTG: Everybody wants to know. What is The Mack Mentality? Describe it.
DH:A mack is a man that abides by set principles and constantly seeks to gain knowledge and understanding. Having ‘The Mack Mentality’ denotes a man that not only is on a constant quest for knowledge, but he understands how to apply what he learns to always put himself in a position of power. The Mack Mentality does not limit itself to male/female interactions. A true mack is able to manipulate any situation in his favour due to him having the innate ability to dissect and play it to his advantage.
BOTG: What is the most important thing to remember about D.J Harmon?
DH:The man comes before the mack.
BOTG: Would you say that to get and maintain a woman, a man has to be somewhat heartless?
DH:No, I wouldn’t go so far as to say that a man has to be heartless. I just think he has to put brain above heart. That is to put logic in front of emotion. That’s the key.
BOTG: Would you say all women are the same in regards to having the Mack Mentality?
DH:Women are definitely not all the same. I do believe that there is a good amount that is able to be generalized and understood, however. At the core of any woman lie her emotions.
BOTG: Has a woman ever said no when you approached and then changed her mind?
DH:Absolutely. Women have preferences in the same way that men do. For this reason, it just isn’t possible that a man will ever have a 100% success rate on his initial approach. For instance, a woman may think that she is only attracted to men 6’5” or taller. When a 5’10” guy steps to her, he may be fighting a losing battle from the outset. I’ve had this happen to me. After the female is able to spend time around me, however, her attraction grows and she realizes her preference isn’t important enough to keep her distance from me.
BOTG: Do you do one on one coaching?
DH:I have something in the pipeline to facilitate that coming soon. Stay tuned…
BOTG: What do you think a woman needs or wants most from a man?
DH:A woman simply needs a man to be a man. What’s lost in the world today is that men are scared to be men. Women need a man that will take control, provide guidance, affection, companionship, and elevation.
BOTG: What is the difference between a nice guy and a Mack?
DH:A ‘nice guy’ is always nice. A mack is nice when it’s deserved and warranted. Some guys are punks and pushovers regardless of whatever the situation and circumstance that they are in. A mack has a backbone that allows him to stand tall in all situations.
BOTG: Are you ever going to do lectures?
DH: I may do lectures in the near future.
BOTG: Are you ever going to write anymore books on Game?
DH: I’ll definitely continue writing books on the game. The next book will be a fiction project, but everything I write will have a heavy dose of the game incorporated because it’s in my DNA.
BOTG: What do you do now?
DH: I hustle and learn.
BOTG: What are your future plans?
DH: I’m just gonna keep writing and keep working. Be on the lookout for the next book as well as a dating advice project that I have in the works. I definitely have some big moves in gear. I want to continue networking and building relationships that may open doors that I have yet to traverse. Anyone interested in getting in contact with me, please do.
Websites
The Mack Mentality Book
The Mack Mentality Video Channel
D.J. Harmon Facebook
D.J. Harmon Twitter
Brotherhood Of The Game 
Quite an enlightening interview and I can’t help to raise the question; in view of your feelings why would you want to choose an elderly, disabled preacher to follow on tweeter?
Anyway, I’m honored.
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