The aim of every man (whether players, Macks, pimps, simps, ballers, gangsters, tricks, captain-save-a-hoes, no matter what the titles) is to be King (on top). Every man is born the same way, through the same process but every man’s circumstance are different. Even if a man is born king, there is a difference between having the title and having the power (the influence-the respect).
So in essence every man will struggle to have power and respect. A King is a leader. To be King in a relationship means to be a leader, the head. A Queen cannot be King but she can help him be a better one.
Most men will never reach kingship because of their attitude and how they manage time. For most men time is spent on chasing women instead of handling business. Only a few invest time to better themselves. When a man positions himself as a king women come from all over. Some will even be willing to be his concubine (sex slave). It starts from inside out not outside in, most men cannot be ‘king’ because they do not understand this concept.
Renaissance men could be said to be close to kingship but as stated before, there is a big difference between having the title and the power and respect. A king that will lead and rule for a long time is one that is respected and influential. People are just willing to let him have power over them and their household. But a true king doesn’t use power to dominate his people, rather he uses it to empower his people and to better his surroundings.
If his people are empowered, they will have the power to empower others and the conlusion is a powerful nation. A man in his relationship must better himself first and he will be suited to be king everyday (not just by title). Then he can empower his woman who will have the power to empower their kids (if they have any). If there are no kids, she will strive to better his lifestyle to keep him as a king. In return she gives him power by empowering him and reassuring him that she truly is his queen (not by title alone) and the cycle goes on. This in essence is true submission. A woman (queen) HELPING a man (king) to remain on top.
This is fair because a King and Queen rule side by side, there is no domination here. But both do have their roles. Its Ying (feminine) and Yang (masculine) all over again. Ying (woman) cannot be Yang (man) and Yang (man) cannot be Ying (woman), there is balance. There is completion.
The Ying (woman) and Yang (man) symbol
So long as a man does his role and better himself everyday and a woman does her role and better herself everyday there will always be balance and there will always be attraction. No matter what, a King and a Queen will always need each other to have heirs (children) to the throne. It is the man’s (the king) job to establish the throne (his household) then his woman (the queen) can make a home out of it. His woman (wisdom) will merely follow him (knowledge). Half and Half always makes a whole (balance).
A pimp (power, effective in his relationship) is like a king to his hoes.
A Simp (feeble and ineffective in his relationship) is not seen as a king at all. He is a walk over. But to be king, a man has to be fluid like water. He must be able to improvise, adapt and overcome. He must be able to read the moment and decide efficiently.
In his ebook ‘The Descent Power: Thoughts on the Great Transformation and how to master it’, Robert Greene states:
The higher you go, the more you enter the realm of strategy, which requires depth of thinking and true perspective.
It goes on to say:
The fluidity you gain will more than compensate for any momentary loss of control.
A man has to be fluid while he master self. It is not the crown or what the crown is made of that determines a king. It is not the name or the ring. It is not symbols or signs but it is the determination to self improve. One shouldn’t strive for power but self improvement because there lies the power. Power will come automatically.
The ebook by Robert Greene in regards to power, states:
You want more contact with the world, no matter how chaotic and challenging that might be, because power lies in moving in that direction and exploiting the moment.