This process of faking it till you make it would seem like a positive process for some people but ultimately it is negative. To fake or pretend is one’s way of lying to self. The process becomes a hard struggle between that which is true and the lies (pretending) been enforced. The process to change or make adjustments is prolonged by a person not being true to themselves. They’ll first have to drop the lies for change to occur.

Many men strive to pretend in order to be true to the game. This is the greatest feeling or act that causes the most disappointments. The very fact that the pretending has no effect cause most men to lose it. Their idiocracies are blamed on everybody else when in truth they are not been themselves.

Nobody, nobody loves a faker and in the case of a man to a woman, women can spot it a mile away. Pretenders are usually the ones uncomfortable, trying too hard to show an ego. Anybody can spot that! Yet these pretenders still expect a woman to say yes. Again pretending does play it’s part in society and even upon approach but it should be used as a temporarily method, more so as a confident builder. Actors and actresses are prime examples of this. They pretend to be someone else to tell SOMEONE ELSES story not their own.

Pretending enables you to be someone else so it is an audasity when pretenders complain that they are not being loved for who they are. But the question for these bunch is WHO ARE YOU?

The best form of strategy is to always be true to yourself. The truth enables a lot of things to happen. With the truth comes acceptance and with acceptance comes adaptation. With adaptation comes comfortability when there is comfortability as in also being comfortable in your own skin, a transformation can occur easily without much struggle. When a transformation occurs you will definitely feel it.

Keeping it real or pretending are two different feelings. One is stronger than the other. When a person uses their true self to transform, they do not cheat themselves, rather they embrace themselves till others feel the impulse to do it to. In other words, people are more comfortable around those who are true to themselves and most of all they are more accepted.